Great news Kent & a very happy birthday! You are right that the progress can be very slow. My H & reconciled a year ago after 19 months apart & it is true that things can actually become better than they've ever been in a relationship, even when you've visited the edge of the cliff & there has for some period of time seemed to be only dismal times around every corner. Your love & support offered to your W has clearly been recognized & it sounds like you are on the path to great happiness with your family. Congrats again--Jamie