Me2, Please re-read my post to you from 5/30. Ignore the proposal and read the rest of it. I really think it applies. C sessions won't help your H if he ain't ready open up. You can't force it to happen.
You gotta decide if you can go forward with the M the way it is. There are no more promises that could be made that will mean anything to you. Time can heal if we allow it to. Not sure how we can heal if we keep rubbing our own face and our spouses face in the past or in our/their shortcomings.
You may wish to start some C sessions of your own. It may help releive some of the pain.
Your H will probably never become that perfect communicator that you so desire. What about his positive traits. Do they outweigh the negative? I do not have the perfect R either. W can't give me all the things I want. At this point in my life I am beginning to realize that she is not suppose to give me everything. My expectations were a bit high. Lowering those expectations has not been easy. I'm still working on it.
