I should probably not be giving you advice since I am worlds behind you in my journey but...I will anyway.
It just doesn't sound like you were ready to fire the C. As a former social worker who saw couples and families, I know that there are lots of different approaches that therapists take in doing counseling.
Sometimes brief therapy is the way to go. Sometimes brief therapy is the only option since insurance mandates it. But it may not be the right approach for you and your H. You may need more than some help in communicating. You may need to continue to put issues on the table and have a forum to discuss them for awhile. It sounds like your H is not going to initiate that and like you are resentful.
There is nothing wrong with going to counseling for tune-ups from time to time or even going for longer term marital counseling. I think sometimes the "experts" advise us on the "right way" to do things because it fits their needs or approach. There are other therapists out there that may be willing to continue working with you and your H.
Michele and the SBT followers may strongly disagree, but I just thought I'd throw it out there since no one knows what you need more than you.
