I think you're handling some tough situations REALLY well. I have always wondered too when the time is to talk and open up, and when it is to keep emotion to ourselves. It sounds like you're balancing that well, even if it doesn't feel like it, and keeping perspective.
If you're going to set time aside to talk, maybe you could keep some notes about the points you want to make to him and things you need ask about?? Maybe it will help you feel better, be more prepared when you aren't talking about it. And it might help remove that feeling of " sweeping under the rug"...
I'm sorry your H didn't console you. That's a pretty sore spot right now for me, too. Maybe he doesn't know you need it? Maybe it's hard for you to do (I KNOW) but why don't you try just asking for a hug next time? I don't think that asking for affection is a sign of weakness. I guess you have to see how he reacts. If you're not sure he's ready to deal with them, then keep the EMOTIONS to yourself, but let him know he CAN do something to help?
