Kent - I, too, think that the persuer/distancer dynamic is very powerful, and has also been one of my greatest tools. I catch myself being on the wrong end of it sometimes, and almost have to laugh at myself when I do. Seems like a person can get pretty quick results from it most of the time, and it doesn't always take much distance to get results.
The C agrees with me in that there is not a hell of a lot I can do about it other than remain patient, compassionate, loving and support her in making some changes in her life. I intend to do just that.
Once again, you've helped me put things back into perspective. Thanks for reminding me, bud. I intend to do the same. It's a decision I've made for myself, and for us.
JJ
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