My R with the step-D? It totally SUCKS!! Condensed version - The kid's biological Dad's a jerk, W tried to make up for it. W had absolutely no boundaries, I stepped in and "interfered". A lot of "triangulation" going on, I was/am the bad guy. I think she sees me as a threat to her control over her mom. D wound up in rehab for 3 months. She got out, things got worse, I was asked to leave, and gladly did so. A few weeks after I left, D attempted suicide, and ended back in rehab a couple of times. Things went downhill from there, still doing drugs, not going to school, druggie friends coming over, anything that could be sold was stolen. Drug lab found in the garage, and W was charged with it. D's the one that brought om into W's life. I could go on forever, but basically step-D and I hold a lot of resentment against each other. I'm trying to let it go, and concentrate on step-S and W.
One of D's diagnosises was borderline personality disorder. She has an empty soul, loves chaos, and will do whatever she can to create it. It messes with her game to have me, W, and step-S on the same side. When things start going smooth, she goes in a panic mode and tries to disrupt it. Her new thing this last week is to bring up the om in front of me, trying to affect my and W's R. W and I both want her gone, which rips W apart. Sorry if I sound bitter, I'm not blaming everything on her, but she sure don't help matters out any! I often wonder why I want any part of this mess, and if being there really is the best thing for me, and everyone else involved. It IS encouraging to see the positive changes in my step-S, and that's a big part of what's keeping me there now.
Enough of that! It sounds to me like you're doing great! Keep up the good work and patience, my friend. H may be coming around slowly to see how great you really are!! Hope your weekend's wonderful!
[This message has been edited by Jamesjohn (edited 09-07-2001).]
JJ
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