I'm curious about what your R with your StepD, you refer to it often, what is the problem? Is it getting better? I'm glad your W is hopeful about that.
******************************************** when things start getting a little better, it's tempting to try to push it along faster. I would suggest to keep strengthing yourself to DRAW him to you. ********************************************
You are sooo right! I have made this mistake too often, also. I DO have to "listen" for the actions.
Yesterday, one of the same friends we were out with on the weekend invited us both to lunch to see another mutual friend who was visiting. I didn't know he'd been invited until he showed up (another surprise move) and he told me that he'd come to see me, not the friend. It's great that he's willing to come out with others around- he's been seeing that side of me. He tells me he's been having a lot of conversations about how "great" I am "doing" and looking with our friends, and they have been telling him the same thing. He compliments me a lot. It's a nice feeling. The changes are really sticking and others do notice.
I appreciate your comments about the OW stuff. Actually, H does not talk about her with me very much - it was brief and it was the most I have heard about her in a long time. There is a level of discomfort for him to talk about her, but even more so- he is respectful for my feelings and asks me a lot if I'm ok or don't want to know etc... I had to let him know that I was curious.
Well, hopefully we'll get replies from Michele on the book board soon, I'm anxious about that too. Have you read the whole book?
with our friends, and they have been telling him the same thing. He compliments me a lot. It's a nice feeling. The changes are really sticking and others do notice. 
