Before the new beginning- need advice

[Jamesjohn]

Hi Lee! I'm here, busy day. Glad that story helped. W's hoping that this is what's going to happen with me and the step-D someday. We'll see.

It sounds like you're doing great, still have a good attitude about things. You do sound calm, and that is important. Keep it up!!

See you're over on the book board. Anxious to see what Michele has to say.

Limbo isn't always a bad thing, it IS a nice break. All the ex-ow stuff sounds pretty typical to me. I don't know if I'd change anything you've been doing for just a bit. Do be careful about getting too anxious, when things start getting a little better, it's tempting to try to push it along faster. It's a mistake I've made a few too many times. I would suggest to keep strengthing yourself to DRAW him to you.

I think the night out with mutual friends was a good thing. Gives him a chance to be around you, see how well you're doing, without the risk of OR talks.

As much as it hurts to hear him talk about ow stuff, there can be a lot to be learned from listening. I wouldn't let it drag on too long in any one conversation, though. Have a subject in mind you can use to change the subject quickly. It's nice he's able to talk to you about her, but the stuff about their physical relationship is a bunch of crap. I don't know how much of that I'd want to hear.

I'm curious, too, about what he means by letting you in more. Hear his words, but "listen" to his actions carefully.

Hope you get to feeling better soon!! Take care.