Hi Nut, thanks for your advise. I have been going to therapy myself of course but marriage is 2 person I need him to want to resolve our communication problem together.
As for myself I have been going for my session and I must say it is really very helpful for myself as I realise alot of hidden fears and wrong mentality about relationships I had.
What I have been doing everyday is to text my H that he is always in my mind and I will be waiting for him to heal, and when he is ready we will go counselling together.
You said that I should be more active, please advise me what actions should I do that will not push my H further. Everytime after a counselling session I realise myself better and the mistakes I learn, I text him to communicate to him. I know this is insufficient, I wanted to go home and talk to him but I am afraid if I do that he will move out of home and I won't know his new place.
Frankly I have no confident in salvaging my M, every respond from him is he wants to move on and he is really serious about ending the M.
I realise my fear of opening up to my loved ones too late, I realise that I always push my loved one away unconsciously...so many things I have learnt and realise my childhood had brought so much fear of losing my loved ones that I always push people away
H is also always very closed up, he never reveals his true identity to me nor to his mum. H always appear strong and is so difficult to get through him, his false front has caused people around him to communicate openly to him. We have a problem that I believe strongly that can be resolved with the help of professionals.
I will continue going to my own counselling and amend all my wrong views...please do give me any advises, thank you.
