I've read your thread this morning and have to wonder what you're doing? I don't mean to come across as harsh, but every post from you so far speaks to how you'll just accept he wants a divorce, that you can't do anything.
Almost all the DBers here have been told that their S wants a D. Almost all of us have been told that there's nothing we can do. The difference here is most of us believe it.
It seems like a big part of why the A happened was that you were not open with your H, you didn't ask him for what you needed, you weren't ACTIVE in the marriage among other things. Now that he's asked for a D you're continuing not to be ACTIVE. That's just more of the same, which is why you aren't getting a response from him.
He may very well have not seen the divorce papers and could be acting out to hurt you. Even if he is getting the papers ready, there are things you can do to make yourself better and show commitment to your marriage.
I agree with the posts earlier, C would be helpful to you. Just because he won't go doesn't mean you can't. DB is mostly about 1 person making changes for the better in the marriage, 1 person's changes affecting change in the other person.
If you really and truly want your marriage, you need to stop wallowing in your own pain and start getting solution oriented. It's going to be tough, but if it's something you want, shouldn't you give it 100%?
-Nut
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Me = 28
WAH = 26
M = 7 yrs
D final = mid-Nov '06
