How to save my marriage after i have 2nd affair?

[RBinBR]

I don't understand ... you were asking just two hours ago how you should act with respect to your H. Did you decide to give up in the last two hours?

The fact that he wants a divorce right now is not a valid reason for you to avoid changing yourself ... quite the opposite, in fact. If you want him to reconsider the divorce, you need to change who you are as a person and become someone who is trustworthy and deserving of respect. If you aren't willing to work on yourself, then your marriage truly is doomed.