Doug01 HI, no he is not willing to go for counselling. Before he found out about the A he wants to go but after he wants to be left alone. Ever since he found out we have not met and he didnt want me home so now i am staying out. At many times I also wanted to end my marriage but I couldn't do it but now i am given no choice but to leave. The feeling of hurting someone you love is worst then being hurt. I have lost all hope and i guess i just have to move on....thanks for the time to read and reply