Quote: I think you are right, there is a good possibility your W will repent rather than lose you - especially with OM far away and you looking better than ever with job, apartment, etc. Let alone your impeccable character and commitment and values.
I think that a number of things will work toward that.
First of all, the "thrill of the forbidden" will be removed from the OM. He now becomes the guy that she's ending her marriage for ... and I think those expectations will likely crush her R with him.
It will produce a fresh and stronger wave of angst from her family and friends.
It will likely shock W ... I think that she thought I would "hold out" for another year or so.
She will have to go to counseling with me as a condition of our divorce.
W does not have the money for this ... she can just barely pay her rent right now and was already talking about getting a second job.
Finally, I know that she loves and admires me.
So, yes, I think there are very good odds that she will change, but that is no longer my goal. My goals are firmly focused on my own life and that of my D4.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
