W31, OM 20 (actually now 21!) Part III

[RBinBR]

Actually, PL, I believe it is divine guidance. It's time for me to set W free. She can't file (because of the covenant marriage), and she has previously said that I was "holding her hostage," and I really don't want to keep her married against her will. I actually think the chances are decent that she will repent during the divorce process. Since we have a covenant marriage, she will have to go to counseling with me, and I really think that now is the best time.

I already have a lawyer, and I'm going to pursue the collaborative process (now legal in a number of states). A collaborative divorce is a special process where we meet with lawyers and a mediator judge, and even D4 gets appointed someone to look out for her interests. It's a much better alternative to a trial, because everything usually gets worked out, and then the divorce is presented to a court and granted. It prevents nasty testifying in a public forum, it's more likely to result in reconciliation, and it's also considerably less expensive. I feel sure that W will prefer it.

I'm going to talk to W later this week, in a very loving, upbeat way.

And, no, BI, I'm not leaving these boards.