Excuse me for hijacking but I just wanted to say that is a very good link you put in your post to Emily. I have put it in my favorites.
I have a "toxic" relationship with my mother. I made the difficult decision this weekend that my children will no longer be going to her house alone and the backlash to come from her will be severe. She has manipulated me most of my adult life and I usually cave in and talk to her again but I have been able to distance myself from her since my MLC. I was still letting the kids spend time with her, though. She doesn't treat my D10 very well at all. Lately, her attitude and straight up meanness has been affecting my kids a lot and so I have had to draw the line. It's a sad and difficult but necessary thing I had to do for my kids. That link and the information at that site is going to help me stand my ground when the time comes because she WILL try to manipulate me again. I always feel guilty, too. Go figure. But this time it's not just me, you know? It's my kids. So I've gotta do what I've gotta do.
I just wanted to say thank you for providing back up.
