Thanks, BI. Trust me when I say that I won't do anything without a lot of prayer.
I will say, though, that I believe my marriage has already been destroyed. I do not believe that I will be sinning if I decide to formally end what no longer exists in fact.
I had long made this time a kind of deadline for me. I'm starting a new life, and I'm not going to live my life wishing things were different. I'm going forward. If my W wants to start a new life as well, I'm open to that. Since she's not, it's really only a matter of timing.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)