W31, OM 20 (actually now 21!) Part III

[RBinBR]

Suited, thanks so much for writing. I don't agree with everything you said, but it was helpful. You are correct that going dark is primarily something for myself. I think it's good for her as well, but I am starting a new life now, and I am going to enjoy it, no matter what my W does.

That said, fate intervened and W actually spent last night here at the apartment. To put the sequence into motion:

Yesterday afternoon, I found out that the guidance office at my school had made a mistake and put 41 students into my 1st period class. Unfortunately, they will not be able to fix the problem until Monday. My room only had 26 desks in it, and there was no way to fit 41 in the way it was, so I had to completely reconfigure the room, moving my desk, the kids desks, going to another building to bring more desks to my room, etc. It took me hours that I needed to spend on my lesson plans and preparing for the first day of class, and I was already short on sleep.

I therefore asked my MIL if she could keep D4 for the night. I would take D4 to eat with me at church and I would drop off D4 so that I could get my stuff done.

D4 then proved to be very sick, and I had to go home first anyway. Some of you may not remember my previous discussion of my D4's medical issues, but she gets severe asthma-like symptoms whenever she gets congested. Anyway, I knew that it was going to be a long night of giving D4 breathing treatments, cough medicine, etc. ... and I had to be back at the school very early in the morning because my room was still a mess!

So I reluctantly called W to see if she would take her for the night, and she promised to come and get her after her appointment. D4 was throwing up and was very sick when W got here, and there was a severe thunderstorm just starting, so W thought it would be bad to try to move her 20 miles (and I agreed), so W spent the night on the couch.

Anyway, W really liked the apartment, and we did some of the ol' snuggling and tickling stuff. Between W being here and D4, I got almost no sleep before leaving at 6 am to go to school (which still went OK -- I'll write more about school later).

All in all, I'm pleased. Remember that living with W's parents was one of the biggest problems that contributed to the start of the A. Last night provided an alternative vision for W -- a future that she might truly enjoy -- putting D4 to bed together and watching a movie while snuggling on the couch in a comfortable and attractive home. W (like most women, call me sexist if you want) is less moved by logic and more by experiences and feelings. Experiencing a night here could ultimately be the thing to make her choose a different lifestyle.

As of today, though, I'm dark again. What happened was basically unavoidable, but I think it only makes it more important for me to be dark now.