Quote: Of course, the real trick is deciding WHEN to stop doing something. Does she just need more time to miss you or does she think you stopped trying, somehow stopped loving her? It's REALLY hard RB, and I know you know that. I also know that you'll make the right decision because you usually do.
The funny thing is that this isn't nearly as big a deal to me as it was even a month ago. I'm happy with my new job and apartment, and my life is much more manageable now that W is keeping D4 three nights a week. I've been given a lot of good furniture by family and friends, and it's fantastic having a pool and workout room only 15 yards away.
It's not that I don't care (because I do -- I'm still in love with my W), but I'm very detached right now, and I'll sometimes find myself thinking about the cute girl across the hall or the pretty single mom living above me. I'm not doing anything about those thoughts right now, but moving here pretty much ended my open-ended commitment to a sham marriage.
The point, though, is that I'm now going to do what I think is best, without worrying too much about what W thinks about it, and I haven't decided whether I want to have her over here in the context of the sitch, though I still think not. I think I'm going to just wait and see how things go over the next few weeks.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
