This just reinforces the idea that I think needs to be said around here every once in awhile that while there ARE many universals, each sitch and person is different. While our WAS's MAY react in the "normal" way Michelle and other's suggest they will when we use certain "tactics" like going dark, it's possible that they will not, just like it's possible that not every marriage will be saved.
I think that's why it's important to make sure no matter what, we are true to our own hearts and minds. I think it's important to make decisions based on ALL the factors of our sitches and what we read/hear from other's.
Even though I don't like the idea of constantly trying new things, as I think the technique suggests, I DO like the idea of the Cheesless Tunnel when describing the abandonment of something if it seems to be having an adverse effect, first on you and then on the sitch.
Of course, the real trick is deciding WHEN to stop doing something. Does she just need more time to miss you or does she think you stopped trying, somehow stopped loving her? It's REALLY hard RB, and I know you know that. I also know that you'll make the right decision because you usually do.
Trust your instincts. I think they have been steering your right for some time now and it's ok to listen to them again.
I'm thinking about you and hope you maintain through this time.
