W31, OM 20 (actually now 21!) Part III

[PositivelyListening]

Hi RB, Just checking in on you. I know it is sometimes hard not to be really angry when the kids are involved. I have found compassion, only by realizing that my H is doing the best he can regarding others, based on what he knows. I realized this week for the first time that my H (handsome and charming as he is) is actually "socially challenged" in that groups are very awkward for him, he worries about "what to say" and thinks people don't listen to him, and biggest of all he truly has very few long term relationships (or at least not close long term relationships). Anyway, with his S12 it really has been hard for me to watch. But I realized that H is trying, wants it, but doesn't know how. So being a great role model as a father is the best thing you can do for your W and your D4. And one of these days, your D4 is going to educate her too. So be compassionate, because that is coming for your W someday if she doesn't get it together, and it won't be pretty. Your D is lucky to have you, and she will be able to get married someday (if she wants to) by choosing a great H like her daddy. She may have some issues trusting her girlfriends though, so make sure she has some good female role models around too (like grandma?)

Anyway, just wanted you to know I was thinking of you, and your new job, and the great job you are doing DBing. I am so impressed with you, and your progress. Keep it up!