W31, OM 20 (actually now 21!) Part III

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Well, since my W was so eager to go clothes shopping with me, I called her yesterday at 4:30pm to ask her when she wanted to go. She finally called me back at 6:30pm today. I calmly let her know that, though she may blow off her boss and her friends and ignore their phone calls, this wasn't acceptable to me. She told me that she wasn't treating me that way, and it upset her that I would think that about her. I said, "Well, you lie to your boss, don't you? You don't tell him 'I just didn't feel like talking to you when you called.'"

My W then hung up the phone on me.

This is really a big 180 for me. I used to simply hold things in until I would get really mad and explode. I'm now committed to calmly discussing my grievances with her as is appropriate. In this case, I'm letting her know that, if she wants to remain my friend, it isn't OK to wait 26 hours to return my phone calls. Since she hung up on me, I'll make sure that we're clear on that the next time we talk.