It's turned into a self-serving exercise for me: if you tell my H that he can't have sex, he has to take it slow, he can't O, guess what he suddenly wants to do more than anything in the world? I then get to be the recipient of some aggressive action on his part, which is my turn on. We are PBTS failures,lol. Lol, Well, H and I experienced something similar recently. Without him even knowing about the PBTS book, he initiated just some "together time" naked in bed the other night. Well, it started out with us trying to go right for the sex and it was just not flowing. So he stopped and said let's just lie here together and enjoy it. I agreed, and after about 5 to 10 minutes of just lying with each other hugging and stuff we both got very turned on and proceeded to have great sex! So it does work, we just can't seem to stop at the no sex part. Which is fine with me. Not going to complain about that.
