I have been very calm lately. The Peace Between The Sheets has influenced me. Although I know that an aggressive style from H is a big turn-on for me, something has changed inside of me and I feel more patient. I am stretching myself to connect emotionally. We looked through the book together and we're not going to follow it step by step but we'll make use of some of the suggestions. Last nite we gave each other massages. In the past my H didn't want that kind of atttention from me...he was uncomfortable receiving the EC as I was giving...but it is so needed for him. I feel I am in giving mode with no expectations. The nice thing about the book is its emphasis that sex doesn't have to be a particular way...I think it goes overboard with the non-O thing, but for those of use who have a little trouble " getting there" it feels like a big relief.
The PBTS book is really for couples who are already on board with wanting to improve the intimacy. I have had to " Schnarch" H( and really myself) to get to this point.
