Quote: I have learned ( and have seen this before) that H is an EC leading to sex person...there's also less performance anxiety in this slow, heartfelt touching kind of thing. But it doesn't quite do it for me...I'd rather feel the EC after the sex.
WOW. Almost stunned, but not quite, given my own history. All I can say is... in the words of Shrek... 'well, that explains a lot."
I have to ask you honestly... do you think you have a fear of intimacy? Being intimate (establishing EC) is very easy after sex... for it is a vulnerable act, in and of itself. And compared to IT (intercourse), it is relatively easy to open up on an EC level AFTER.
But to open up on an EC'ed level BEFORE IC... well, that is a whole other ballgame, completely.... you might have to 'give up' some kind of pre-defined role you have for yourself... you'd have no idea of what to do, what to expect, no role to fill... you could actually be wandering around in no-man's land...
I am NOT belittling this state... in the least. I am wondering, though, if you find that in the least bit indimidating?
