Ok, quick validation question: everytime I try to validate what my W feels, she attacks me telling me I'm condescending. I don't understand. She wants me to actually agree with what she's saying - and I don't. What's wrong with that? I think it's an issue she has with her self esteem, where she feels wrong and is seeking validation. In fact, throughout this 5 and a half month ordeal, she's been talking about almost nothing but being validated about her feelings meaning something. I've done all I can to validate without agreeing - I'm not even adding a but, but she still sees it and gets upset. She's also been doing all she can to find fault with me, so this may be part of it.
Ok, so a little advanced validation help anyone?
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
