Hi Mama, know how you are feeling, sometimes I think we need to step back, and maybe not necessarily admit defeat, but turn the focus around. We can't help them, change them or show them, they have to do it on their own. I know right now I have fifty million reasons why H needs to get back on the wagon with me, and I am frustrated because if I try and tell him any of them, I know what the answers will be. Anyway, hang strong lady, you, me, all of us will get through this...