Oh Mama, I hope they help. I say these things because there is NO point in learning this stuff if I can't share what I've learned with people who need the information.
Always--I figured we had more in common than you let on.
So, Mama, is it a date? You leave your H alone right now and concentrate on you? Sounds like a great place to start--after all, you're worth every moment. It also does wonders for PMA--because you're no longer shining the floodlight on his stage, but yours instead.
The side benefit to that is that even though he might be involved with OW, he's paying very close attention to what you're doing and saying (or not doing/not saying). Learn to take full advantage of the opportunities that are given to you to SHOW your changes rather than SAY them. You can't believe how many opportunities you have during any given day.
Again, while my XH is a P/A person, my aggressive nature didn't help him overcome it until I changed. What a concept!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 