Sorry Mama for this little hijack but I think your sitch is very similar so it may apply to you as well...
Always, I think I do all of what you say. I tell W she looks good, hot, whatever. I mix it up. I DON'T say it all the time as to look like I am trying to get somewhere. I touch her in casual ways, and except for a few isolated incidents, I don't do it what it is clearly leading to something else.
The problem is that it seems like we are just on totally different pages. It seems like my "stuff" doesn't even register on her radar. It's like I'm sexually invisible to her. I can't even imagine her looking at me with anything other than that "friendly" smile. She just doesn't see me that way, even after I got in shape, clearly changed my overall attitude, initiated "touching" in a way that I THINK communicates my affection and countless other things that I KNOW were missing for our entire marriage.
COULD she just be taking a long time to come around, to trust all this? Sure, but as Mama says, how long do I wait...before talking to her...before thinking I need to maybe consider moving on myself.
I want more than this, as I keep saying, and I think I am doing what I need to do to have it. I know I can't control W and I don't want to. I know I need to be more assertive and more passionate but it's really hard to do that to a cold brick wall.
I am REALLY just venting but this hurts. I WILL keep plugging away but sometimes I get tired and lately it's been hard to keep things moving.
Again, sorry Mama. For some reason this came out better on your thread than mine.
Feel free to reply to this on my thread Always or anyone else.
