Always, once again thanks for your words of wisdom. I would NEVER want to pressure someone into anything that they were uncomfortable doing. It would end up being a very unsatisfying experience for both parties. I have learned not to expect anything (although I do shave my legs EVERY day, just in case - a girl scout must always be prepared - lol) Anyway, I cannot control the sitch right now therefore I am just being me, I will continue to give hugs and kisses and if I just get the cheek in return, that is the way it is. No biggie, the rest of my life is going really good right now, I am trying not to be so wrapped up in the lack of intimacy thing. (It didn't seem to bother me before the bomb - lol) Anyway, thanks again for the advice.