I have been thinking about this and I want to say a couple of things about "making your spouse miss you or feel they don't have you" , it's really about what you feel comfortable doing, what works for you. I DON'T actually do it consciously because I feel it borders on game-playing. I did it once after being dark, as a bit of a LRT (we needed a jolt to change the pattern), but I have felt bad about it ever since. lol. But that's just me.
I find the biggest things happen when I feel a change in ME. When I genuinely feel "detached" from my H (lovingly) - he notices that shift in me quite quickly and he responds to it. This week, I have had a lot lately that he has to concentrate on himself that I felt a bit defeated and like leaving him alone anyway. I didn't call or email, and he has a few times. Go figure.
Sorry this isn't exactly what you were looking for, but I hope that helped a little.
