An even bigger and more interesting question is WHY did I run across it TONIGHT???
I don't believe in coincidences.
I was a WAW lost in a MLC. I had an affair that wrecked my home and family. At one point I promised my H that I would try to break things off with OM. I couldn't. My head was such a mess. Believe me when I tell you I didn't MEAN for it all to happen. My life got TOTALLY out of control and I allowed it. I knew right from wrong but not what was right or wrong FOR ME. My husband left, detached and wrote us off. God knows, this is the SHORT version of my story which was 3 years in the making. Suffice to say that once my husband was DONE and I had extricated myself from the grip of OM (who turned 'staker' by the way)...I then underwent MONTHS of self reflection and examination. What I found was that I never stopped loving my husband. We had just lost each other as life was passing us by. Then all that was wrong in my mind spilled over and the result was a MLC.
All of that is over now.
I have spent the last 7 months trying to reconcile.
We have come pretty far, to say the least.
The jury is still out but I have so much faith in my sitch now that I dare say for the first time in my life, I have truly done the right thing.
I'm standing.
Your wife CAN change. I hope she gets that counseling.
Believe me though, the person you love is still there. She's just lost.
Do it quietly....but try to STAND a little longer.
