Post away, this is a hard time for you right now, and I've found it really helps to talk it out here.
He's very, very, very confused right now. Doesn't know what he wants, where he's gonna go, what he's gonna do. Probably a lot of guilt mixed in there, too. Let him work it out on his own. Above all, take care of yourself.
I think your assumptions about this being a bump in the road are right. Give him space and detach. DON'T think of any time frames right now, this will only frustrate you, and make you seem too anxious. Ain't good for your emotional or physical well-being. Keep your long-term goals in mind. Don't worry so much about what HE is feeling, worry more about how YOU are feeling. I've found that it helps me to go back and re-read the DB'ing basics at these times. Helps to put things back into a better perspective. When we've come this far, it's very easy to complicate things more than we need to. Back to the basics!!!
There are varying degrees of darkness, use them to your benefit. Also remember that darkness and dimness is more for you to regroup and keep yourself together than it is for anything else.
Run away for a few days if you can. Even just a few hours. Take some Lee time, you deserve some rest.
JJ
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