quote:Originally posted by Zelda: Hi Lee....LTNS....I am glad to read your posts...brings a smile to my face to see how far youve come. Here is my advice for where you are at right now with H. Some will disagree with me but it is what has worked in my R.
Remember awhile back i got you to send yourself flowers? This really affected your H. I think right now he needs to feel he could lose you. Time to turn up the heat and not be available to him, in a kind and loving manner. I dont mean ignore him or stop seeing him altogether...just make sure that every conversation and interaction you have with H you leave him with a feeling that he doesnt quite "have" you. This is the best possible way to get them to open their eyes and see what they could lose. If you want to know some of the methods to get him to belive this them email me anytime or ask here. And also STOP discussiing any OR with him. PERIOD!!!! Keep detached for awhile. My H has been home for almost 3 weeks Lee, and I am still detached. Do it lovingly, but firmly steer him from all OR talk. This only serves to bog them down in all of their confusion. Wake this man up now, show him he could lose you....go away for the weekend...do something different. Time to turn up the heat
Z
Lee - Just a reminder!!!! This is still timely advice IMHO!!
JJ
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