Before the new beginning- need advice

[Jamesjohn]

Lee - My W didn't feel "pressured", she felt "smothered". Pretty much the same thing, you think?! The more space I gave her, and the less I "seemed" to care about whether R was going to work or not, the closer she got to me. I think you know all this, though, you've done it before. We all just need to be reminded every once in a while.

One of the hardest parts of all this is to not take all of their drama personally. Easier said than done most of the time, but quite relieving during the times that we can manage to do it. As you say, starve the alien out. Don't always be available to him.

You sound much better now, I know you'll do great!