Lee - Not a whole bunch of time to respond at the moment, just wanted to let you know you're not alone. So sorry this is happening to you, however, I think it's pretty normal. (As if anything they do is normal!! hahaha) I know that doesn't make things easier for you right now. I wouldn't feel this is the end if I were you. Went through similar situations, and made it through so far.
Listen to what he's saying. Sounds like he wants some space. Give it to him, in fact, give him MORE than he wants. Remember the dynamics of distancer/pursuer. Back way off, go dark, especially for your sake. Sounds like you need some time to regroup. Be busy doing something this evening, DON'T ANSWER HIS PHONE CALLS!!! He needs to miss you.
Be strong, my friend. Will check in on you later.
JJ
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