I think you are doing all the right things. I wish I had it in me to be as calm, rational and patient as you are being. Keep up what you are doing because it's working! As far as his being unwilling to recommit right now maybe it's simply his fear that's holding him back. I betcha he never thought he'd ever cheat and I also betcha he's told you that. So how does he trust himself now? I'm not saying he's got another one lined up and waiting it's just that he knows you don't trust him, at least not yet, and he's probably not too sure he trusts himself, because of what he's done. He doesn't want to recommit to you because of HIM, he is afraid of what it means. He knows he's screwed up...royally and he wants to be sure he's sure and you're sure. Not sure he loves you and wants the marriage back, but sure he can live up to what he expects of himself. He also knows that he's hurt you (and OW too, I'm sure he feels guilty about that...much as we don't want to hear that). I think it's more about him than you. Continue to give him the space he needs and keep up your PMA!
