One more thing, hard as it is, you really want him to see ONLY your patience and understanding...if you show him that YOU are committed, he will more apt to 'fall in line' so to speak. It is ok to tell him sometimes that you're frustrated or not feeling that confident about yourself (never tell him you're not confident about HIM b/c it'll make him think YOU think he's not trying), and then when you do, ask him out loud for some reassurance...a hug (etc). It sounds stupid, but actually saying "I'm feeling bad I need a hug" gets me much further than sulking and hoping he notices. I have found that my H responds pretty compassionately to this.
It is dam hard but you've come this far. You can do this.
L
p.s. when ever you feel like you're gonna go bug$hit, come here and holler at me/us!!!
