My owner friend called tonight and we spoke for a long time. He told me that his counselor told him what mine has told me. Quit. I told him that I am NOT quitting. I have hope but I am not optimistic. I am open to reconciliation, but I am moving on and GAL.
One more SAD piece of knowledge. I know that my W is now talking to the second (that I know of) man about getting M. NICE. At least 2 in less than 4 months. She is so confused and running so fast. She has not figured out that she is not going to find happines in someone else. As her mother always says,
Quote: "Happiness is an INSIDE job."
He also told me a story of a friend of his who has been D for 5 years now. About 3 years after the D, his W called him to tell him that she figured out that she made a mistake. She figured out that she traded "known" crap with her now ex-H for "unknow" crap that she has since discovered. She also said that she figured out that the grass is NOT greener elsewhere and that she wished now that she had worked on her M. The friend did not take the bait. We both agreed, THAT is a real kick in the nuts.
THAT is why I am keeping myself open to reconciliation for as long as I can while GAL. NO ONE in my family and few in my circle of friends understand why I hold out hope. No matter, I know why. I also have figured out who supports me in the way I need to be supported who is focused on themselves.
My owner friend and I agreed that we would talk and now I have the green light to "infect" him with PMA and the willingness to remain open to reconciliation while his W sorts out her STUFF. I am happy that my friend and I talked about our mutual pain and need.
