Sorry to see that things are kinda slipping here, but I still am happy to see that you're doing such a great job with your PMA. Lots of days you really inspire me when things are looking down in my sitch.
I am sorry and sad too. However, I don't have a lot of control over making the sitch more positive for now. I am happy that my PMA helps you.
With regard to the house, in CA, this is a community property state. I am no lawyer, but I do believe that since I have been willingly placed on the deed (and yes, on the loan as well), I do have a legal right to the house, or at least to be "bought out." I don't know how it would work out in asset division, but again, I did NOTHING to ask to be put on the deed and the loan. That step was taken to benefit my W and to follow her wishes. And YES, regardless of whether I sign off the deed or not my name is still on the loan.
I do believe I will sign my name off the deed regardless. Yes, even with my name still on the loan. I believe it is the right thing to do. Right is right, always. Everything else will all come out as it should. I have control over being true to myself.
You are correct. I do not want to make her more upset than she already is. Her heart is hardended right now. I don't want to make it petrified.
