Sorry to see that things are kinda slipping here, but I still am happy to see that you're doing such a great job with your PMA. Lots of days you really inspire me when things are looking down in my sitch.
With regard to the house thing, let me just say this. Stop. Don't do anything at this point. I'm not sure where you live and I can't say for certain that the laws in your state are similar to those in my state, but the fact is, whether it was hers before the M or not, that property is part and parcel of the marital estate. I know in PA, even if your name is removed from the deed, its doesn't make a spit of difference because the law sees that property as being held by the marital couple, regardless of whose name is on it. The fact that it was gifted to her before the M may be of signficance when it comes to asset division down the road, but right now, you both have the same legal right to the property. Besides, you are on the loan as well, correct? Why would you want to cede the asset and still be on the hook for the money?
Look, I know this is a senstive area for you and I know you may be hesitant to p*ss off your W, but don't just go giving up the farm to appease her.
That's my .02 worth.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
