Legally, it is ours. She needed for me to co-sign to refinance the house and roll and in a 2nd. I did so w/o question...she is my W. Anyway, now that she has had a change of heart with regard to being M, she wants me to sign my name off of the deed. Problem is that I will still remain on the loan. The house is a rental BTW. We did live in the house before we moved to where we live now.
To answer GH's question, YES she will be mad. Extremely. And I understand that I could be feeling, "Who cares?" But that is just not me, even now. The house was gifted to her before we married and then through her own "needs" she had me commit for a loan for a house that was not mine. Again, I did so w/o question and believing that nothing would change on the deed. SHE is the one who told me that I AM on the deed and that I could ask to be "bought out" of the house. I did verify that I am, in fact, on the deed. The house has a LOT of equity. I just don't feel that would be the right thing to do, regardless of the outcome of our M troubles. Does that make sense here? It certainly doesn't to most of my RL friends and family, except one. But then again, to most of my RL friends and family AND her own mother, I should have already thrown in the towel on our M.
I have two friends who "basically" understand that I am working to save my M and preserve my family. I am truly feeling like I am alone. That is why I am leaning so hard on my DB/DR brethren and God and looking at myself in the mirror and reminding myself daily WHY I am DBing; because doing so is doing right. I want to save my M.
So much of the world doesn't understand me. Oh, well, I understand me and I have been striving to always do the right thing: 1)grow my faith, 2)save my M, 3)preserve my family, 4)maintain my self respect and dignity in the process, 5)personally grow, and 6)GAL. Pretty small order, huh?
Well, brothers and sisters, thanks for listening to another rant from me.
