Quote: The sad thing is that on either side of the fence, the other party, in this case, your W, usually is mistrusting of "advice" that is thrown over the "fence" to them.
Ugh, I know this. Blinded by my own desire to "fix" my M and my W. Not smart. I know that to DB I need to fix me. I do have the problem of being a "fixer" and NOT a listenter/validater.
Quote: ...H's get caught up in "fixer" mode and react to something that our W's are venting as something that they want us to fix when the truth is that they just want us to listen, validate and then move on.
Me, me, me, me. Ugh.
Quote: This is JUST A POSSIBLE scenario but one that seems plausible to me.
Standing on the outside looking in makes EVERYTHING look so d*mn clear. Too bad I can't slow down and live my life more like I had 20/20 foresight.
Quote: So, I agree, let it drop.
It was and remains dropped. I will read the book. I bought the book for me to better understand the dynamics of OR anyway.
Thank you, my friend. I appreciate you clearing up my view of my world. Helps me more than you know.
