I know it was a compliment. I am such a worry wart at this point as I stare into the abyss of a D that I do not want. I worry that she will believe all of my growth and changing is not real. I have ZERO credibility with her. Well, let me climb off the pity pot. I have more than ZERO credibility since she still seeks my opinion and counsel on her personal stuff. A positive? I think so.
Quote: Stop sweatin' the small stuff and press on through the crap that gets thrown in your path.
W/O you and GH to kick my rump, I'd be lost. Thank you.
I am so sorry to hear about what happened with you D10. But, I am extremely happy that you kept the faith and kept DBing to make things better for you and your family. WTG! You give me hope. My problems always seem so BIG to ME when I'm knee deep in my own shi*t. Then I read sitches like yours and realize I need to quit whining and get down on my knees to express gratitude and pray for His will to be seen by my W.
Quote: What I am saying to you is that when things get thrown into your DBing path, think long and hard & seek the Lord. There is always a right way and a wrong way to handle things.
I have started saying right is right ALWAYS. That's so true. The other thing is that just b/c my W chooses to behave the way she is does not mean I have to follow suit.
Quote: We can not allow our flesh to determine what we do. We walk by faith and not by sight.
My faith grows each and every day. Thank you Amy.
Quote: There's a time to stand up (like you are doing to save your marriage). And a time to stand down and just trust God, Who wants your family saved even more than you do.
Amen, I am learning, I am learning. In my past I would have always stood up to everyone's detriment. Now I have my DB/DR, AmyC, GH, PaRob, RBinBR and the rest of my DB brethren. THANK YOU ALL. You have all given my the backbone I would have lacked to stand up and fight for my M after the hand I dealt to me and my W. I know we still have a LOOOONG way to get out of the woods, but I haven't stopped believing, having faith, praying, hoping, loving, DBing, and moving forward. I now recognize that I DO have a choice to strive to do what is right to seek redemption, restoration, and reconciliation. I am NOT give up!
In closing, my mother forwarded an e-mail to me about whining. I thought it was great. I am going to cut and paste it. You may enjoy it. I thought it was VERY DB/DR-like.
