an unanswered question: Should I hold off on offering the book to her until she asks for it? The book is so appropriate for one of her/our HUGE issues. I just don't want to push us from somewhat positive to definitely negative. God know, it's already negative enough. Any thoughts you offer are greatly appreciated.
HH, don't try to "fix" her unless she indicates that she wants help. Maybe you can casually bring the issue up and see how she reacts, but be VERY CAREFUL not to push the book on her.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
Well, I am at the house with the children and she is off. I'll be focusing on our children, having fun with them and pumping up my PMA. I need to binge on my prayers to help my with my PMA also. It's easy for me to get sidetracked from what is my most important R; with God, that is.
Our plans for the weekend. 1. Two little girl birthday parties with our children and on Sun: 2. church, 3. a sun brunch for my co-worker's Bday and her twin sis, and 4. then off to the zoo and the neighborhood "kid fun" park and our picnic. Lots of fun GAL on my own with our children!! I am soo excited to be with them and have them for the whole weekend. I absolutely love being their father.
Actually, I didn't mean to smack you down but I understand why you feel that I did. Anyway, you are what YOU think you are. I think you know that by now. The trick is getting others to recognize that vision you have of yourself.
Like I said, HH AND Amy, no smackdown intended, lol.
My daughter told me a story of meeting a man (wife's BR, although my D didn't know that) a few days ago while my W was getting a mocha. My W keeps changing the playing field and I keep finding out about her selfish behavior after the fact. This time from our D.
I have asked my W in the past if the "rules" have changed because I told her I can play by ANY rules she wants. She actually told me we would NOT be introducing other people to our children for awhile. I was unaware that that while had passed. I feel inclined to bring my knowledge of her decision to change the rules so that I now KNOW what the "rules" are for our children and OR going forward. Should I? Or should I just ignore it and act "AS IF?" This meeting with the OM and my D occurred BEFORE my "positive" conversation with my W.
Perhaps I should just let it go, continue DBing and see what transpires for OR. I truly understand that we will only have redemption, resoration, and reconciliation on HER time or NOT at all. I pray several times daily for patience and guidance. I also pray that my W will be shown His will, knowing that she may choose to acknowledge and act on it or NOT.
I do believe that our conversation was a sign of her softening her stance on our M and acknowledging His word and will. I also understand she has free will to do as she may, as we all do.
Do the question for my DB brethren, stand tight? Or move forward and acknowledge what I know? After spilling my guts on this post, I an now inclined to shut up, sit tight, pray, DB, and be patient. Please let me know YOUR thoughts, feelings, perspective, and guidance. Thank you.
I absolutely did NOT feel "smacked down", put down nor insulted. YOU, kind sir, are my brother from another mother. You can say pretty much anything you want, as long as it is truth to YOU, and you will NOT offend me. I have seen that you are a person of honesty, giving and integrity. I appreciate you more than I can ever tell you, friend.
You can say pretty much anything you want, as long as it is truth to YOU, and you will NOT offend me. I have seen that you are a person of honesty, giving and integrity. I appreciate you more than I can ever tell you, friend.