My daughter told me a story of meeting a man (wife's BR, although my D didn't know that) a few days ago while my W was getting a mocha. My W keeps changing the playing field and I keep finding out about her selfish behavior after the fact. This time from our D.
I have asked my W in the past if the "rules" have changed because I told her I can play by ANY rules she wants. She actually told me we would NOT be introducing other people to our children for awhile. I was unaware that that while had passed. I feel inclined to bring my knowledge of her decision to change the rules so that I now KNOW what the "rules" are for our children and OR going forward. Should I? Or should I just ignore it and act "AS IF?" This meeting with the OM and my D occurred BEFORE my "positive" conversation with my W.
Perhaps I should just let it go, continue DBing and see what transpires for OR. I truly understand that we will only have redemption, resoration, and reconciliation on HER time or NOT at all. I pray several times daily for patience and guidance. I also pray that my W will be shown His will, knowing that she may choose to acknowledge and act on it or NOT.
I do believe that our conversation was a sign of her softening her stance on our M and acknowledging His word and will. I also understand she has free will to do as she may, as we all do.
Do the question for my DB brethren, stand tight? Or move forward and acknowledge what I know? After spilling my guts on this post, I an now inclined to shut up, sit tight, pray, DB, and be patient. Please let me know YOUR thoughts, feelings, perspective, and guidance. Thank you.
