You keep giving me credit but mainly all I did was sick Amy on you, lol.
Anyway, I think you did GREAT in that conversation. One of the HARDEST things we ever have to do with this DB stuff is decide when it IS time to have a R talk. That time is different for each of us and I think you NAILED your timing.
Of course she is softening up, they almost all do, on whichever side of the fence they're on. That's why DB is SO effective, because it gives the natural inclination of people to flinch, or hesitate when they think they are SURE they know what they want, time to work. When it DOES work, as it almost always does, they look back toward that spouse they THOUGHT they wanted nothing to do with and see something they didn't expect. They see a confident person, taking steps to better their lives, something (we) have probably not done in a LONG time. Sure, initially, there is that "why did it take so long" reaction, but then the real feelings of "WTH am I doing" set in and there is REAL chance for then to reconsider.
In order for that to happen, I believe those of us doing the "DB" thing have to be sincere and focused on the task at hand otherwise, it just looks and feels like a trick to them.
You are doing well. I have been reading your thread and sometimes I cringe a bit at some the more "over the top" things you have said and done (don't ask for examples) but that's just what I consider your enthusiasm showing through, which in the long run, is a VERY good thing. Overall though, you are doing GREAT and I really appreciate your efforts.
Please keep up the GREAT work and I will be thinking of you as you try to keep this progress moving.
