This morning my W leaves me a msg on my cell b/c I don't answer her calls any more. I listended to her vague msg and came into the office with the staff pissed off at me b/c my W is calling there to get others to print off loan docs for her signing today and I am not there to handle it. I apologize and explain that I CANNOT do that stuff for my W anymore as a matter of self preservation. They understood.
Also, this PM I received a call from my ex-neighbor (H). He thanked me for returning the call and told me that he had not remained in contact b/c of the W's blowup. He told me that he had advised his W to take the high road in the time after the blowup. He told me that his W asked him to call me to ask MY thoughts on getting our D's together. I told him that I would prefer to sever that friendship because they have had a terrible impact on one another growing up. I did NOT tell him that his child's behavior is terrible nor did i disparage their parenting skills. We left it at that.
Then my W calls me and wants to know about my conversation with my ex-meighbor. I told my W that I think it's terrible that she is choosing to rekindle a horrible friendship and wants to rekindle our D's friendship with a poorly raised child. My W tells me that her wish to rekindle her friendship with our ex-neighbor is NOT the reason for wanting to get our D's back together.
I just got call from my W telling me she believes that she NO say. That I have laid down the law. She also told me that I am being a jerk. I told her being passionate about an issue does NOT make me a jerk. She agreed. She then tells me that she just wants to get our D's together sometimes and I tell her OK, how is this going to look with you managing it? I don't know, she says. Great. THAT makes me feel good.
She brings up the D paperwork and that we need to go back to the mediator to finalize the documents. Another kick in the n*ts. I know it's all part of the process, but ugh. I'll get thru this. Our children will get thru this. I know I need to continue detaching. I know I need to redouble my DB efforts and focus.
