Before the new beginning- need advice

[Jamesjohn]

Kent - Got to thinking more about the list thing, and, for me, I'm thinking of changing the headings. I'll probably change them to something like "I like it when you…", and "I don't like it when you…". My W is VERY sensitive about thinking that someone is telling her what she should or shouldn't do, and shuts herself off completely. She thinks she's being controlled, and ridiculed and judged about her behaviors. Maybe changing the wording will open her up to it more, and still get the same effect? Any other suggestions on this?