My W is having a real rough time with her GF of 15 years. This GF is someone she met in rehab and, from what I see, is even more narcissistic than my W. My W has always bent over backwards to accomodate this GF, without question or hesitation. Over the past three years their relationship has seriously deteriorated and distanced.
Anyway, my W went to her GF's 30th Bday party last Sat evening (with one of her new BF's, mind you) and her GF was cold and distant. I don't know why, but it makes me think, hmmm......... My W told me she (my W) asked for her work clothes back (from her GF) and was brushed off and treated coldly and rudely. I told my wife my philosophy, which is that you are clearly getting something from the relationship even though you are treated badly because you keep going back for more. I told her that this is definitely something to look inside about; not enforcing boundaries with her GF (nor our ex-neighbor, for that matter).
Regardless, at least for now none of this should matter to me this much. Heck, I was served today!! Ugh. NOW that is a narcissistic person (my W) being doted on/cared for/worried about by a co-dependent (yes, ME d*mnit). Ugh, again. Oh, well, life happens.
Right now my brain is scattered. I am having trouble focusing on anything except the mess of my M and our children. God bless my children! But, I do know ALL will be better in my head tomorrow since it will be a new day and I will focus on redoubling my DB efforts, nurturing myself and my PMA.
When I am hit by a Mack truck, like I was today, I go to my book of quotes to re-charge my mental energy and pump my PMA back up. This evening I referred myself to SIR ARTHUR CONAN DOYLE
Quote: When the impossible has been eliminated, whatever remains, no matter how improbable...is possible.
Saving my M and rebuilding OR though improbable, is certainly quite POSSIBLE through maintaining my proper attitude! Another quote, from NORMAN VINCENT PEALE-
Quote: Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our sucess or failure.
I intend on being triumphant despite my currentl trials and tribulations! I am strong, I have stamina, I will persevere.
