Well Amy, HERE's a surprise, well, not really a surprise. My W walked into the office with my divorce papers from the arbitrator. Not unexpected, but hurt nonetheless. It was kind of like expecting to get kicked in the nuts and it hurt like hell even though I was expecting it. Oh, well... life goes on. I will be on nurturing myself and my PMA more now than ever.
Now the real DBing efforts begin. I will detach further and continue loving my W from a distance. I have no choice. I do have a question. My W asked me when our D countdown begins: 1) the day the arbitrator turned in the notice to the court clerk or 2) on the day I actually sign the notice and return it. I live in CA and don't know the answer, but would like to know. If anyone knows, please let me know. Thank you.
